How many times have you heard someone talk about what they would be willing to do in order to achieve success? People talk about stuff like this all the time.
How often have you heard them include the statement that they are willing to do the hard work up front when there is no immediate reward? This they don’t talk about nearly as often…
Typically, people talk of total willingness to take difficult action AFTER they’ve achieved a desired result.
“If I got paid that kind of money, I’d be willing to work those hours.”
“If I had that kind of car I’d keep it clean. This is just my work car.”
“If I was (insert sign of success here), then I would be willing to (insert price that must be paid WAY BEFORE becoming successful here).
The fallacy in this thinking is that life doesn’t work that way.
You don’t get to stand in front of a fireplace demanding heat without putting in the fuel.
You can’t proclaim proudly that if there was a roaring fire there, you’d be happy to keep putting in wood to keep it going.
To be successful, you have to do the work up front. Most rational people understand this.
Hard work leads to good results. Simple right?
BUT…there is a deeper level of understanding you need to achieve if you want to attract, and sustain, real success.
The Master Key
If you can absorb the following truth you’ll be light years ahead of the rest of the population, and it will actually bring you what you want faster than the hard work will.
You don’t need to just do the work.
You need to become the person that does the work.
Well, isn’t that the same thing?
No it’s not. Not at all.
You see, a millionaire is a millionaire in her mind LONG before she is a millionaire in her bank account. You need to become the person that achieves the result you want.
Jim Rohn said success isn’t something you pursue. It’s something you attract…by the person you become.
A man wants a certain result. He’s smart enough to understand he needs to do the work beforehand.
He will probably start doing the work, but unless he works harder on BECOMING THE PERSON that does the work, the minute the task becomes too difficult or annoying, he will likely stop doing the things that he needs to do.
This is the reason why things like weight loss efforts fail.
A man decides to go on a personal weight loss journey…but he hasn’t decided to become a different person in his mind first.
When the first major challenge or setback slaps him in the face, it’s easy to fall down, give into the difficulty and the justification is made that, “this is just who I am.”
He sells himself on the idea that the person he is…is incapable.
But is he? In reality he is anything he truly wants to be.
Which raises a haunting question:
Do we secretly want the things we say we don’t?
All subsequent efforts at a task we’ve failed at before become more difficult as we become more and more “sold” on our “identity.”
I’ve watched this phenomenon happen to me personally as well. I was an all state long distance runner in high school. Since graduating and starting a family I’ve found it hard to keep at it. I have attempted to start a serious running program more than 20 times in the last 15 years and I have never been able to stick with it. I haven’t been seeing myself as a runner.
Writing this article makes me want to get out there again and tell myself repeatedly that I am a runner and this is what I do. I’ll keep you posted on my progress :p
The Creep of Bad Habits
Failure doesn’t just hide in failing to make the big sweeping positive changes we know we should make.
It also comes in a more insidious form: the innocent creep of bad habits.
Someone might say, “Eh, I only slack on this one little thing….I do everything else pretty well.”
If you start digging into his habits you’ll uncover all sorts of inefficient, success destroying behaviors. Bad behavior is the slipperiest of slopes.
You need to free yourself from thinking this way.
You need to run in the opposite direction when you’re faced with the option to be mediocre.
All of your life choices affect each other…and the exciting thing is that if you begin making a prolonged, sustained effort to move in a positive direction, these good choices will eventually become easier to make and it’s because the same principle applies; the more the belief builds that you are a certain type of person, the decisions that type of person makes will come naturally to you.
This is probably why Admiral McRaven came to appreciate the action of making your bed so much. We should all become that type of person.
So I encourage you to take a good hard look at your life.
What do you need to upgrade so that you can become that person?
You don’t start making better decisions after you become successful.
You need to make good decisions in order to become successful.
Start with your mind. Begin with your own personal standards. Then look at every part of this life you’ve navigated to thus far.
I’m not asking you to go spend a bunch of money, although you might need to spend a little if you’ve got a few things going on below the minimum standard you set. If you dress poorly, live in chaos, and drive around in a dirty car all day, how can you possibly expect to perform at the highest level? Conversely what would happen if you woke up in a clean house, dress sharp, and spend your day in a sparkling clean car? Your mind would feel completely different.
I’m asking you to get up early, make your bed, and work with passion all day long. Rich people are on a mission. Poor people drift with no plan.
I am asking you to make sure your clothes are neatly pressed and your shoes are clean. Rich people don’t (usually) dress poorly.
I am asking you to make sure your car is spotless. 2 minutes a day when you get home is all it takes to keep the interior of your car something to be proud of. Rich people don’t drive filthy cars.
Do the same thing with your house. 15 minutes a day is usually all you need to keep a house relatively presentable.
Most importantly, I am not asking you to just do all these things.
I’m asking you to become the person that does.